Running your marriage like a business partnership with your mate, is the common thread found amongst successful marriages. Marriages are only happy and successful if both partners are willing to work hard, keep set routines, have regular conferences before problems arise, take quality time together and time apart and above all show love and respect for one another.
Many marriages fail today because the people involved do not know how to show love for one another since they were brought up in a loveless relationship. If you follow the following marriage tips based on information from couples I have known, through different groups, your rewards will be a happy marriage.
1-Private matters should be kept private
Private matters like your sexual relationships, finances and anything else you deem private should be kept between you and your mate, only.
Whatever happens within the marriage should stay there and not be blabbed about at the workplace or bar. If your mate couldn’t climax the night before don’t make fun about it in public. That should remain between the two of you only.
Problems often arise if the wife earns more than the husband. He doesn’t want people to think the wife is keeping him or that he married her for her money, so it’s best to keep financial matters as private as possible.
2-Financial habits can make or break a marriage
Set up a budget and then try to stay within your budget. Put so much aside into a savings account, each month, even if it seems a measly amount. This gets you into the habit of saving and watching areas where you could economize even more.
Plan ahead for those necessary expenditures and emergencies. Review your strategy month by month along with your long term goals.
Figure out ways of economizing on the small details, because those pennies really do add up.
3-Join together in routines of the marriage
Draw up a contract just like a business arrangement where you list all the jobs that have to be done and when they have to be completed. That way everything gets done on a routine basis. This leaves no room for arguments about who should do what. Set aside one hour a night when you both work at your routines set for that day. You work together, you finish together and then you have time for each other. It’s amazing what can be accomplished within one hour especially if you are both working at it and not feeling slighted because you’re the only one, doing all the work while your partner just sits and watches TV.
4-Keep your separate personalities
No one wants a yes man or woman. Both men and women are different and therefore should retain their own likes and dislikes. Just because the husband likes football, doesn’t mean that the wife has to enjoy it and the reverse is true for the wife and her enjoyments which the husband can’t stand, like perhaps sewing. But, show respect for your mate’s interests and the time set for your mate to spend with friends.
Always respect each other’s belief systems. No two people think the exact same way.
5-Make a decision about your children and stick to it no matter what
If you have discussed a problem with one of the children and come to a decision then stick to it and don’t undermine your mate making him/her to look like a monster. The child needs to know that if one parent says no then the other one agrees. Children become confused and start playing one parent against the other. This will eventually cause a rift between the parents and can lead to an unhappy household. No parent enjoys hearing a child say well daddy/mommy said I could after you have just told the child no.
6-Be loyal and honest with each other
If something happens, tell your mate outright and then try to work through the problem. There is nothing worse than hearing it second hand from a friend rather than from your mate directly.
Take time for each other and the family, instead of attending too many committee meetings out of the house.
If you like to drink, why not drink at home instead of down at the bar. It’s cheaper and your mate will be happier knowing where you are. Perhaps bring your buddies home once in a while. Again both mates should check with the other to be sure there aren’t other plans for that night.
7-Above all be considerate
Let your mate know if you are planning to bring friends home and not just walk in with them. The same thing for your children. Tell them to plan ahead and perhaps set one night a week preferably not the same night the bridge or drinking party is taking place so they can start organizing their lives as well.
When your mate is sick, try to be considerate. That means keeping the house quiet and helping with the clean meals and clean-up. Remember, when someone is sick, they are at their weakest moment and need positive energy to get well.
Take turns deciding what the entertainment will be like the movie or TV program.
8-Surprises can be fun
Surprise your mate with a special evening once in a while. Arrange with a friend to take the kids for a sleep over but do make sure you reciprocate the favour at a later time. Make sure the house is super clean if you’re planning a love nest time at home and have his favourite meal prepared. Set a romantic tone with candles, his favourite scent, wine and music. Remember this is his special night. Then sometime let him reciprocate by taking you out to your favourite restaurant. It’s special, little surprises and treats like this, that spark a marriage and keep the romance alive. But remember, it doesn’t have to be expensive, for it’s the love and mutual respect that spark the marriage into a life commitment of fulfilment.
NB: If you follow these simple marriage tips more than likely you will keep your marriage well tuned until ‘death does you part’. May the blessings of love be truly with you.
Many marriages fail today because the people involved do not know how to show love for one another since they were brought up in a loveless relationship. If you follow the following marriage tips based on information from couples I have known, through different groups, your rewards will be a happy marriage.
1-Private matters should be kept private
Private matters like your sexual relationships, finances and anything else you deem private should be kept between you and your mate, only.
Whatever happens within the marriage should stay there and not be blabbed about at the workplace or bar. If your mate couldn’t climax the night before don’t make fun about it in public. That should remain between the two of you only.
Problems often arise if the wife earns more than the husband. He doesn’t want people to think the wife is keeping him or that he married her for her money, so it’s best to keep financial matters as private as possible.
2-Financial habits can make or break a marriage
Set up a budget and then try to stay within your budget. Put so much aside into a savings account, each month, even if it seems a measly amount. This gets you into the habit of saving and watching areas where you could economize even more.
Plan ahead for those necessary expenditures and emergencies. Review your strategy month by month along with your long term goals.
Figure out ways of economizing on the small details, because those pennies really do add up.
3-Join together in routines of the marriage
Draw up a contract just like a business arrangement where you list all the jobs that have to be done and when they have to be completed. That way everything gets done on a routine basis. This leaves no room for arguments about who should do what. Set aside one hour a night when you both work at your routines set for that day. You work together, you finish together and then you have time for each other. It’s amazing what can be accomplished within one hour especially if you are both working at it and not feeling slighted because you’re the only one, doing all the work while your partner just sits and watches TV.
4-Keep your separate personalities
No one wants a yes man or woman. Both men and women are different and therefore should retain their own likes and dislikes. Just because the husband likes football, doesn’t mean that the wife has to enjoy it and the reverse is true for the wife and her enjoyments which the husband can’t stand, like perhaps sewing. But, show respect for your mate’s interests and the time set for your mate to spend with friends.
Always respect each other’s belief systems. No two people think the exact same way.
5-Make a decision about your children and stick to it no matter what
If you have discussed a problem with one of the children and come to a decision then stick to it and don’t undermine your mate making him/her to look like a monster. The child needs to know that if one parent says no then the other one agrees. Children become confused and start playing one parent against the other. This will eventually cause a rift between the parents and can lead to an unhappy household. No parent enjoys hearing a child say well daddy/mommy said I could after you have just told the child no.
6-Be loyal and honest with each other
If something happens, tell your mate outright and then try to work through the problem. There is nothing worse than hearing it second hand from a friend rather than from your mate directly.
Take time for each other and the family, instead of attending too many committee meetings out of the house.
If you like to drink, why not drink at home instead of down at the bar. It’s cheaper and your mate will be happier knowing where you are. Perhaps bring your buddies home once in a while. Again both mates should check with the other to be sure there aren’t other plans for that night.
7-Above all be considerate
Let your mate know if you are planning to bring friends home and not just walk in with them. The same thing for your children. Tell them to plan ahead and perhaps set one night a week preferably not the same night the bridge or drinking party is taking place so they can start organizing their lives as well.
When your mate is sick, try to be considerate. That means keeping the house quiet and helping with the clean meals and clean-up. Remember, when someone is sick, they are at their weakest moment and need positive energy to get well.
Take turns deciding what the entertainment will be like the movie or TV program.
8-Surprises can be fun
Surprise your mate with a special evening once in a while. Arrange with a friend to take the kids for a sleep over but do make sure you reciprocate the favour at a later time. Make sure the house is super clean if you’re planning a love nest time at home and have his favourite meal prepared. Set a romantic tone with candles, his favourite scent, wine and music. Remember this is his special night. Then sometime let him reciprocate by taking you out to your favourite restaurant. It’s special, little surprises and treats like this, that spark a marriage and keep the romance alive. But remember, it doesn’t have to be expensive, for it’s the love and mutual respect that spark the marriage into a life commitment of fulfilment.
NB: If you follow these simple marriage tips more than likely you will keep your marriage well tuned until ‘death does you part’. May the blessings of love be truly with you.
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